Past Relationships

Happy people don't trawl through the past looking for answers.  A quote from  The Wedding Girl by Madelein Wickham.
But this is what I did with a boy I went to a church Valentine dinner with one weekend in 1973.
This is an exert from our conversation.  The Wedding Girl is a great read, by the way. Funny and entertaining.

DSG: You know, I was trying to remember how we met! and couldn't remember. Do you?

KJH: We met at the little Coffee House out on Hwy 61. You were the love of my life and I never forgot about you. I've thought about you often throughout my life.
Do you remember one evening when I was at your house, we wanted to make-out, but your mother made us play Spirograph?

DSG: My mother tried to keep me pure! I am sure you are going through the same with your own children. My own children did stay pure until marriage! Given my track record, that was a shock!

KJH: Yeah, you were a hot little number alright. I had 2 boys, so they pretty much followed my track record. No chance of keeping them pure.

DSG: I remember the drawing you did of your hand drawing your hand, do you still have it? You were (are) a good artist. Ya know, I think that coffee shop is a Mexican Place now??? I'm not so sure anymore. If we had stayed together, you would have made the same decision my ex did: Someone ten years younger and willing to do anything. Its not good to dwell on the past. Glad you are doing great. Hope you find the Savior in your life.

KJH: You can see some of my recent work at (my website) if you like. I've made a good living with my art and it's taken me all over the world. When I first wrote to you, I was in Las Vegas working on a project in China. I've been to China 8 times since 2001.
I never look back, but I remember how much I adored you at the time. Just a little heartbreaker. You were boy crazy at the time and not interested in being with one guy for very long. I remember that you broke up with me at the Canteen in Duncan Park.
We should have met a little later in life. I think that would have been much better.
I'm not much for religion these days, but since I was raised Baptist, I'll always look at the world from that perspective. I'm married now to a girl from Colombia. She's 44, two teenagers from a previous marriage and is as sweet as can be. I married SB from Natchez in 1977 and that lasted 7 years. We had 2 boys and they are 30 and 27 now.

DSG: All I remember about the break up is that I couldn't handle the sexual activity.

KJH: An innocent Angel such as yourself, had no business with a boy like KJH. I'm sure that after we broke up that you wisely saved yourself for marriage.

DSG: After my parent found out what happen in the back seat of that car, I was given a reprimand about reputations. The parent of the girl driving were friends of my parents. Must have been blood left over somewhere. We both got into trouble. So, I figured my reputation was gone to hell so why not continue in the same vein. Everytime my parent found out what I was doing with the next "boy," I could not see "the boy" anymore. Maybe that is why I looked to all in town that I was boy crazy. I was looking for Mr. Right the wrong way! We should not have done what we did. I have lots of regrets about my life. I deal with them and I'm sure you do, too. I was 14 when I knew you and didn't have all the answers. I am sorry I broke your heart, wish it could have been different.

Glad to know you are successful.
I'm at work, about to go home, don't have the internet at home and I'm off tomorrow. Don't get the wrong idea if you don't hear from me in a while. Don't get the wrong idea, anyway. Its not good to dwell on the past. I am not involved with anyone because I don't want to have to deal with no sex (before marriage). Just once I would like to find someone who didn't think sex before marriage was a good thing. I would probably stick with him until death.
I'll follow you on facebook. Let me know about your trips over seas. I have only been to Belize. Would love the oppurtunity to travel around the world but I don't have the travel savey. Post pictures of your trips. Your web site is awesome.

KJH: Thanks Donna,
That answers a lot of questions for me. I always felt that you broke up because you met someone else, or maybe I wasn't cute enough or didn't have a cool car.
Yes, the past is past, but I would like you to know that I have always thought fondly of you and would love to keep in touch. You still represent a special moment in my life and I'm glad we can talk now.
I'd like to be your friend.

DSG: Glad to a have friend,can't have enough of those. Sometimes I think I don't have any.

Also, glad to get that cleared up.  When the the KJ become just K?
KJH: So when I was in Art School in Sarasota, there were about a hundred K's, so I changed mine to something different. KJ was a little too country. LOL
It stuck and now, I'm known as K.
Have a nice weekend Hon, Which of the Germany boys did marry?

DSG: James, nicknamed Peco. He went to TJ.

Brenda Seab is his older sister.