Past Relationships

Happy people don't trawl through the past looking for answers.  A quote from  The Wedding Girl by Madelein Wickham.
But this is what I did with a boy I went to a church Valentine dinner with one weekend in 1973.
This is an exert from our conversation.  The Wedding Girl is a great read, by the way. Funny and entertaining.

DSG: You know, I was trying to remember how we met! and couldn't remember. Do you?

KJH: We met at the little Coffee House out on Hwy 61. You were the love of my life and I never forgot about you. I've thought about you often throughout my life.
Do you remember one evening when I was at your house, we wanted to make-out, but your mother made us play Spirograph?

DSG: My mother tried to keep me pure! I am sure you are going through the same with your own children. My own children did stay pure until marriage! Given my track record, that was a shock!

KJH: Yeah, you were a hot little number alright. I had 2 boys, so they pretty much followed my track record. No chance of keeping them pure.

DSG: I remember the drawing you did of your hand drawing your hand, do you still have it? You were (are) a good artist. Ya know, I think that coffee shop is a Mexican Place now??? I'm not so sure anymore. If we had stayed together, you would have made the same decision my ex did: Someone ten years younger and willing to do anything. Its not good to dwell on the past. Glad you are doing great. Hope you find the Savior in your life.

KJH: You can see some of my recent work at (my website) if you like. I've made a good living with my art and it's taken me all over the world. When I first wrote to you, I was in Las Vegas working on a project in China. I've been to China 8 times since 2001.
I never look back, but I remember how much I adored you at the time. Just a little heartbreaker. You were boy crazy at the time and not interested in being with one guy for very long. I remember that you broke up with me at the Canteen in Duncan Park.
We should have met a little later in life. I think that would have been much better.
I'm not much for religion these days, but since I was raised Baptist, I'll always look at the world from that perspective. I'm married now to a girl from Colombia. She's 44, two teenagers from a previous marriage and is as sweet as can be. I married SB from Natchez in 1977 and that lasted 7 years. We had 2 boys and they are 30 and 27 now.

DSG: All I remember about the break up is that I couldn't handle the sexual activity.

KJH: An innocent Angel such as yourself, had no business with a boy like KJH. I'm sure that after we broke up that you wisely saved yourself for marriage.

DSG: After my parent found out what happen in the back seat of that car, I was given a reprimand about reputations. The parent of the girl driving were friends of my parents. Must have been blood left over somewhere. We both got into trouble. So, I figured my reputation was gone to hell so why not continue in the same vein. Everytime my parent found out what I was doing with the next "boy," I could not see "the boy" anymore. Maybe that is why I looked to all in town that I was boy crazy. I was looking for Mr. Right the wrong way! We should not have done what we did. I have lots of regrets about my life. I deal with them and I'm sure you do, too. I was 14 when I knew you and didn't have all the answers. I am sorry I broke your heart, wish it could have been different.

Glad to know you are successful.
I'm at work, about to go home, don't have the internet at home and I'm off tomorrow. Don't get the wrong idea if you don't hear from me in a while. Don't get the wrong idea, anyway. Its not good to dwell on the past. I am not involved with anyone because I don't want to have to deal with no sex (before marriage). Just once I would like to find someone who didn't think sex before marriage was a good thing. I would probably stick with him until death.
I'll follow you on facebook. Let me know about your trips over seas. I have only been to Belize. Would love the oppurtunity to travel around the world but I don't have the travel savey. Post pictures of your trips. Your web site is awesome.

KJH: Thanks Donna,
That answers a lot of questions for me. I always felt that you broke up because you met someone else, or maybe I wasn't cute enough or didn't have a cool car.
Yes, the past is past, but I would like you to know that I have always thought fondly of you and would love to keep in touch. You still represent a special moment in my life and I'm glad we can talk now.
I'd like to be your friend.

DSG: Glad to a have friend,can't have enough of those. Sometimes I think I don't have any.

Also, glad to get that cleared up.  When the the KJ become just K?
KJH: So when I was in Art School in Sarasota, there were about a hundred K's, so I changed mine to something different. KJ was a little too country. LOL
It stuck and now, I'm known as K.
Have a nice weekend Hon, Which of the Germany boys did marry?

DSG: James, nicknamed Peco. He went to TJ.

Brenda Seab is his older sister.

Vampires

Has every author everywhere gone to vampire stories?  Some more than others.    After starting the Passage,  I had commented so much time into it that I had to finish. It was okay as far as vampire stories go. Way to long to be that interesting.
I finally caved and started reading The Twilght Saga. Reading the Twilght Saga has helped me understand the hipe from the teenagers I know. They love this story. Purity of love, action, adventure and horror, all rolled into one.
Glad I 'm so far behind. When the next one comes out, I will not need to be standing in line to get it!

review of Reluctant Pilgrim

     I love to read.  I can usually be found reading any time of day, anywhere.  I always carry a book in my purse just in case the wait is too long and I get bored.  I usually finish a book even if I don't like it.
     Right now, I am reading a book I pick up at the local library that is an advanced reader's copy.  It is Enuma Okora's  The Reluctant Pilgrim.  I guess if I were someone who was not sure of my plan of salvation or religious doctrine, this would be a good starter book to read.  The writer is a theology graduate and still questions her own beliefs.  How she received her degree with all her doubt is a mystery to me.  She does not even understand her doctrine well enough to try to explain it. However, the writing is well written if you can get through the constant underlining of words that are stressed.  It just the subject matter I have a hard time understanding. Maybe, a future book she writes will be a better subject matter.

Jail Ministry

September 26, 2009 - Saturday


Ministry

Category: Religion and Philosophy

Ministry, we all should have one, right? I have been in such a slump and I didn't know why. But last night I went with some ladies from another denomination to a prison!

(You have to do what you have to do right.) It was awsome. I loved it!

We started out at 4pm and finally reached the prison at 6. Then had to wait to get in because of shift change.

We had to go through locked doors. ( a small room which has two locked doors on both sides) Inside there were fences with barbed-wire on top.

The common room we were in had 112 ladies inside.

We had songs and speakers. They responded like I never would have thought. Many came forth for prayer. Several with tears. It was just like church.

I think I have found my nitch. Pray for me, ya'll.

Ministry

October 3, 2009 - Saturday


Ministry

Category: Religion and Philosophy

You know, I really like going to the jails and prisons. The inmates are really needy for attention! They like just hearing from other. I think they get tired of doing nothing all day so the interaction with someone new must be a plus. The coordinator is going on vacation and out of town most of the month of October. She has ask me and another lady take over her part. I hope I can be as uplifting as she is. She really knows her stuff! and has the right answer for all questions. Pray for me on Monday. On October the 9th she is going to a ladies prison in LA. She is teaching on homosexuality. Pray for her.

Also, we are taking up things to fill goody bags for the inmates for Christmas, 560 exactly. If you want to help get in touch.

MEN

Well, it happened I did not take my own advice I have been giving for 23 years. Yes, even I can be stupid. It started out as a very innocent meeting. I needed help with my lap tap. A malware virus from you-tube got on it. It shut down everything. He said he could fix it. It took me weeks to get the money to fix it. When I called to ask if it was possible to met, he said sure come over to Comfort Suite where I work as the computer tech. Well, I was going to leave it with him but he ask me to stay and watch him and let him instruct me on what to do with all these programs he was installing. And let him explain what I was getting for my money. And it was still an innocent meeting. He was charming with all his non sexual/sexual connotations. Of course, I was still set to not let him get next to me because he didn't believe like I believed. He is Mormon (ARGH!!!).  You  may not have anything against Mormon, but I do.  Well, 12 hours later my computer was fixed and back in its bag and I was on the way home. But he was slick, oh yes. He talked me into getting RAM for the laptop and oh yes, he would be glad to order it or we could go to Office Depot and see what was out there. Well, he looked up the online prices and office depot had the same RAM for the same price it would take to order with shipping and tax. So yes I bought it. He then said, Come with me to get the oil changed in my daughters car. LIKE A DUMMY I GET IN THE CAR. MY FIRST CARDINAL RULE BROKEN. HE HAD ME AT HIS MERCY.

After the oil change we go for a ride, to the Natchez trace, to a sand bar with a wading pool, and blankets don't let me go further it is too disgusting. I hate myself. What a weakling.

Why can't I find someone like Elizabeth Gilbert's Filipe.  He waited and ask politely before sex.  He didn't rape her.